So, got it with your help.
The only change, i had to make for the right icon in the widgets listing was in the file : ... Objects\res\xml\mapmypos_info.xml
Here was at the end the icon info missing:
android:updatePeriodMillis="1800000"
androidreviewImage="@drawable/icon" />
Unfortunately sometimes the designer overwrites this xml file and the icon info is missing again.
So i set the properties of the corrected xml file to read only and everything works fine.
The other change i had to do was in the manifest.xml to aviod showing the apps icon in the menu and to disable the ´open´ button after installation:
SetApplicationAttribute(android:icon, "@drawable/icon")
AddReplacement(<action android:name="android.intent.action.MAIN" />, )
AddReplacement(<category android:name="android.intent.category.LAUNCHER" />, )
Now everything works fine.
Thank you for your help!